When your friend is dating a loser

My friend has brought up that the guy probably has Asperger’s syndrome, which, okay, that explains some of the social awkwardness, but I hate how my lovely, kind, and outgoing friend is always explaining and apologizing for this bozo’s outbursts.

*The article, Are You Dating A Loser was written by Joseph M. So, read on, and by the end of the article hopefully you will have gained some insight and will able to answer the question that he poses in his title.

It is very informative and discusses some of the warning signs of emotional and physical abuse to look for within dating relationships.

Very few relationships start on terms other than sweetness and politeness.

He has a lot of expectations for how my friend should be that makes me think he doesn’t really “see” my friend clearly and accept who he is.

As a parent, you know that if you tell your child NO, or dig in your heels – the possibility that they will skirt around your back and sneak out, or do what they want anyways, potentially putting themselves in danger – become higher.

He is very socially awkward and will often blurt out hurtful and insulting things at social gatherings that are later explained away as “jokes.” He’s also extremely conservative and quotes Glenn Beck all the time, and his idea of how their marriage should work definitely casts himself as a traditional husband and my friend as a “wife” even though they are both men.

I’ve told my friend what I think, and he always has an explanation for everything this guy does.

There doesn’t seem to be an official Catholic version of a shadchanit, so let me play the un-official version on the internet. Today I had an interesting conversation with a young lady that just confirmed I was right in my belief that all single woman should be using a personal match-maker or a least a sane, unbiased third party (be it family or close friend) to help them make sound relationship decisions. First she wants to know if we require a certain credit score because she’s concerned that her boyfriend doesn’t have good credit.

A young woman came to me looking for a house to rent with her boyfriend – her absolute first mistake right there. She then proceeds to explain to me her “situation” as we start to go over our rental qualifications. I reassure her that credit isn’t all we look for in an applicant. How’s his rental and employment history, I ask hopefully?

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